My favorite rapper released a new album on Friday. What does that have to do with horses? If you have the time and the patience, I'll make the connection. My favorite rapper is NF, a newly popular artist signed to a Christian label. He is controversial and most people either love or hate him but never fear - you don't need to like him or even his style of music to understand this post.
His new album is titled The Search and explores his newfound fame. NF has always pursued music as an outlet for coping with the challenges of life including losing his mother to drug use and the mental illnesses he struggles with. His songs are focused on ambition, dedication to the process, creating "real music", determined to reach the top of his field without the inauthentic industry shortcuts. And then he "made it".
As I listened to his new songs for the first time, I heard the same thing over and over, just repeated in different ways. His dreams came true and he still isn't happy. He is just married. Just famous. His tours are selling out and his album is selling. His music videos are trending. He feels fake, unnecessary, worthless. He struggles to deal with the motives of people around him as well as his own negativity and shortcomings.
As I listened to the songs, they felt familiar. I realized that I have a lot in common with an extremely wealthy and famous human.
If I am not happy where I am now, with what I have now, I will never be happy when I achieve all my goals and my dreams come true.
We all know that deep down I think, but wow. The music really helped it sink in. Don't get me wrong, I still have all those dreams and goals. And I said "when I achieve" not "if". But happiness is a choice that can only come from realizing that I have everything I need now. I am a Christian. I know that my worth and purpose comes from a God who sees my failure, loves me anyway, died for me, and is remaking me into the person I was meant to be. But instead of living that out, I chase after goals and ambitions as if they will fulfill me. If I could start horses in thirty days I could be happy. If I had a house and money to support myself I could be happy. If I had better grades I could be happy.
The trick is that the finish line is always moving. A year ago I thought I would be happy if I was doing what I am doing today. A year ago I struggled to keep my room clean, now I have a habit of tidying almost every day. But instead of enjoying that accomplishment, I have completely forgotten about my goal and set my sights even higher. As NF says in his song Nate, "You might catch a glimpse of happiness from your achievements/ but what you'll learn as you get older/ every time you reach one/ is you'll just make another goal that doesn't lead to freedom."
So there is the connection. I have so many exciting, crazy, nearly unattainable horse-related dreams. I'm going to chase those dreams. But I have to learn to find joy every day, or there is no point. I have to learn to rest, and appreciate the moments, trusting in the process. Or someday I'll find myself at the top, looking back and wishing I'd prayed more.